Your smart home isn't broken, your DNS settings are.
One packet capture revealed DNS settings, routes, lease timers, domain names, and several networking fossils.
Check your Wi-Fi band, perform a speed test, and check bufferbloat to see what you can do to improve your router's performance before buying new hardware.
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